{"id":387,"date":"2015-02-09T01:17:34","date_gmt":"2015-02-09T06:17:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/?p=387"},"modified":"2015-02-09T01:17:34","modified_gmt":"2015-02-09T06:17:34","slug":"no-kid-zone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/no-kid-zone\/","title":{"rendered":"NO KID ZONE"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Author: Amy Nicole<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hilarious to me when I ask guys how many children they want to have and they start blurting out numbers like 4,5, and 6 like they are the ones who have to carry the child for 9 months! I\u2019m at the age where women are starting to get married and have kids, but my desire for children just seems non-existent.\u00a0\u00a0 I\u2019ve been told that when I meet the right guy my feelings will change, but I\u2019m not sure that they will. I have never really been maternal and sometimes I even get awkward around kids, especially around a group of them. A big part of me has this fear that I won\u2019t be a good parent. Parents have such a big influence on their child\u2019s life and I would hate to screw up my child\u2019s head due to bad parenting. When I tell my mom that I don\u2019t think I want children she gives me this look of horror like I said I wanted to kill someone. Sure I gush over an adorable baby when I see one but I realize that the child will not always remain a baby. I believe some women are born to be mothers and some women are not. I remember being at church one day and hearing a preacher say it was every woman\u2019s responsibility to have children. I was thinking to myself what if you don\u2019t have the desire for children. I mean just like some people don\u2019t like vegetables some people don\u2019t like kids<\/p>\n

There are a lot of women I work with who are younger than me and they already have more than one child.\u00a0 One of the most offensive questions that I get asked is, \u201cWhen are you going to have kids? You better hurry up before you turn 30!\u201d What irks me the most is that most of the women who harass childless women about not having kids are the ones who aren\u2019t even married but have two or three kids by different men. I think this logic that you should have kids while you\u2019re young rather than when you\u2019re mentally and financially ready to have them is very ignorant. \u00a0\u00a0Having children is not something you should rush because they are a lifetime commitment. I know because my parents still have to help me out financially from time to time.\u00a0 You can\u2019t just give them back when you get tired of them; children are a huge responsibility and they require you to make so many sacrifices. You sacrifice your time, energy, money, careers, and for women your bodies! \u00a0I\u2019m not ready to sacrifice any of those things right now. \u00a0Right now I\u2019m single and it\u2019s a struggle for me going to work all day, trying to come home and cook and trying to fit in a workout. The thought of trying to fit kids into that equation just seems overwhelming.\u00a0 I definitely want to get married one day but a fear that I have is what if I meet the guy of my dreams but he wants children and I still don\u2019t have the desire for them. Do I risk losing a husband or do I have children anyway to appease my husband\u2019s needs?<\/p>\n

Another predicament that women have who decide to postpone childbearing is that darn biological clock! 35 is supposedly the cut off age if you want to have a healthy child, but what if you\u2019re not ready to have kids by that age. I know women are having children much later now but I don\u2019t want to be in my 40\u2019s raising a young child; I just don\u2019t have the patience.<\/p>\n

When I was doing research for this topic I came across an article<\/a> which listed a few reasons why women shouldn\u2019t have children. Some of those reasons included the following:<\/p>\n

Y<\/em>ou shouldn\u2019t have children unless you can be sure you will love them no matter how they turn out, faults and all. This includes mental or physical disability, if they turn out to be a homicidal maniac or if they don\u2019t do things you understand.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t have children unless you can truly afford them, and have a considerable amount of money stashed away to fund their existence until they are at least 18 years of age. If you want a child so much then you should make it your goal to be able to afford the things they require.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

You should not have child for your own gain. Whether it be to keep your marriage together, to have someone to love you, or to have someone to care for you when you are old.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I agree with all of these reasons on why people shouldn\u2019t have children.\u00a0 Growing up I had this idea of what my adult life should look like. Go to college, start the career, get married, and have children. Now that I\u2019m at the point where I need to start thinking about having kids and I don\u2019t think I won\u2019t any, I feel like I\u2019m doing something wrong.\u00a0 Society tells women that they are selfish, or less of a woman if they don\u2019t have children when in fact they are neither. The choice not to have kids is a right that every woman should have and they shouldn\u2019t be scrutinized for their decision. I\u2019m not completely crossing kids off of my to do list because I\u2019m still pretty young and things could change, but if I decide not to have kids I don\u2019t think I will look back later in life and have any regrets.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Author: Amy Nicole It\u2019s hilarious to me when I ask guys how many children they want to have and they start blurting out numbers like 4,5, and 6 like they are the ones who have to carry the child for 9 months! I\u2019m at the age where women are starting to get married and have … Continue reading “NO KID ZONE”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":873,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[372],"class_list":["post-387","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle","tag-nokidzone-nokids-kids-singlelife-single-thedoublescoop"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/387","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=387"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/387\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/873"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=387"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=387"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=387"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}