{"id":1366,"date":"2016-01-07T07:46:30","date_gmt":"2016-01-07T07:46:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/?p=1366"},"modified":"2016-01-07T07:46:30","modified_gmt":"2016-01-07T07:46:30","slug":"sexless-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/sexless-2\/","title":{"rendered":"SEXLESS"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When I tell guys that I\u2019m abstinent the most common response that I receive is, \u201cHow do you do it!?\u201d\u00a0<\/em>No, I\u2019m not a virgin but believe it or not sex is something that I really don\u2019t have a strong desire for. To be quite honest a large part of it is due to the fact that I\u2019ve never just had great sex! \u00a0When I talk to other women about my lack of good sex they look at me in pity. The most common response that I receive is, \u201cGirl I feel so bad for you! I love sex!\u201d<\/em>\u00a0 Men on the other hand take my predicament as a challenge in hopes of being the guy that will make me change my mind.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve gone months, even years without having sex and when I finally give in to the temptation the experience just isn\u2019t worth it and the moment isn\u2019t very memorable. One issue that I might be having is that most of my sexual experiences have been more on the casual side. Not that I\u2019m going around having one night stands, but I haven\u2019t been in a relationship in a while so most of the guys that I end up having sex with are just guys that I\u2019m randomly dating. The older that I get I\u2019m definitely realizing that I\u2019m not a casual sex type of person. I know most guys can have sex with a woman and forget about her the next day, but with me I feel like if I\u2019m having sex with you I\u2019m giving you a part of me and that\u2019s not something I want to share so freely.<\/p>\n

I spoke with a lot of guys regarding the subject of sex and the consensus of most men under the age of 40 is that sex is definitely a deal breaker in a relationship. When I asked guys if they would date a female who was choosing to be abstinent most either said no or that they would date her but would definitely be getting sex from someone else on the side.<\/p>\n

When I asked women how important sex is in a relationship most of them said it was important but that they were willing to compromise having great sex in exchange for a great guy with a good personality. Most women who are in a good relationship said that they have faked having an orgasm to stroke their man\u2019s ego.<\/p>\n

I’m not saying that I’m going to wait until I get married to have sex again but I do want to have a deep connection with the next person. Some people might call it old fashioned but to me it simplifies things so much. Sex in a way complicates relationships because it makes you feel like you are so attached to this person but in reality you are really not. \u00a0From a biblical perspective when you have sex with someone it causes a soul tie which makes it hard to break away from them. \u00a0A perfect example of this are couples who fight all the time but they stay together because the sex is good.<\/p>\n

My advice to any single person practicing abstinence is to set your boundaries. If you tell a person you\u2019re abstinent and they still try to pursue you sexually you should cut that relationship off immediately because they obviously don\u2019t respect you. You can tell when a person is genuinely interested in you because they will actually take the time to get to know you without rushing things. Also don\u2019t let people intimidate you. I\u2019ve been told by other women that the right man may not wait around for me but I believe if a person is right for you, you won\u2019t have to compromise your morals or standards to be with them.<\/p>\n

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When I tell guys that I\u2019m abstinent the most common response that I receive is, \u201cHow do you do it!?\u201d\u00a0No, I\u2019m not a virgin but believe it or not sex is something that I really don\u2019t have a strong desire for. To be quite honest a large part of it is due to the fact … Continue reading “SEXLESS”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1368,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[170,180,310,416,435],"class_list":["post-1366","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-lifestyle","tag-couples","tag-dating","tag-love","tag-relationships","tag-sex"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1366","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1366"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1366\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1368"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1366"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1366"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/thedoublescoop2.com\/dev\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1366"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}